Multiple scars yet living with hope

Wearing multiple arm scars and living with a background of jail, drug, alcohol and relational abuse, Sami (not her real name) now walks with hope and a glimpse of her purpose in a role helping others.

When meeting Sami for the first time, I could see she’d journeyed a rough life path.  Yet, I could also read in her confident speech and enthusiasm that she had hope.

The turning point

Curious to learn more about her story, I listened as she spoke briefly of her difficult past and how things had changed.  These changes took place when someone took notice and saw value in her.

Interestingly, Sami expressed a desire to help others in a similar way.  Her explanation was genuine but rather broad, “To help others who have been in a similar situation to me”.  I asked if she was happy for me to help her narrow down her purpose.

Focused direction

Over the next 20 minutes we worked on clarifying Sami’s personal ‘calling statement’.  We identified her core desire was to help women – particularly those who were likely to fall through the cracks of society and social-care.

Through this impromptu coaching session, she was able to greater define her vision and narrow it to something more specific.  Closer to her heart was a desire to help girls aged over 26 years.  Specifically, women who are facing life challenges similar to those she previously experienced.

Stumbling blocks

Hesitating, she also expressed concern about being underqualified for this role.  Certainly, appropriate training and knowledge would be beneficial (and depending on her future involvements even mandatory), yet this should not stop her from taking action.

I encouraged her to,

First give from what she already has.”

First steps

She became emotional, realising she could be effective right now!  With tears in her eyes, Sami identified her first step was to help a young lady whose recent release from jail reminded Sami of her own walk.  She too had been released from ‘lock-up’ several years earlier and had no-one trustworthy to turn towards at the time.

By giving of herself and purposing to be a positive influence, Sami already has the ability to provide connection and hope in another person’s life.

Seeking personal fullfillment?

  1. Identify a ’cause’ or ‘area of focus’ (outside of your self) that you have interest, energy and passion for
  2. Get specific about what you do and who you’re doing it for
  3. Take immediate action with your existing skills and resources, then add to and develop these along the way

If you had to choose one ’cause’ or ‘area of focus’,
how could you bring about change?

Purpose: How Nic found hers!

Nic’s Story

Nic D. and Life Purpose Coach Rick Paget
Nicola D., with Life Purpose Coach, Rick Paget, ACC.

Activating your purpose is a challenge for many people – especially if you’re a stay-at-home mum.
Be encouraged by Nic’s story.

Having completed the Discover Your Calling Course in mid-2015, Nicola D. not only further clarified her future calling, but also actively started taking purposeful steps towards it.

Identifying & Activating two Purposeful Steps:

Nic’s first purposeful step was to fulfil a personal dream, of expressing her creative talents in a project that brought ‘joy to not only herself but also to others’.

The result being this beautiful hand-painted 1960’s Gold-Coaster Vintage Caravan designed for personal use, wedding props, and photo shoots.

The accompanying 1958 Morris Minor Ute (bottom right) was the final sweetener in fulfilling this part of her dream.

Nics first stage of purpose: Hand-painted 1960’s Goldcoaster Vintage Caravan & 1958 Morris Minor Ute.
Caravan Design by Nicola D. – @freedominthewind57
Photo by Tracey Beard Photographer – @traceybeardphotographer


Her second purposeful step was to pursue a career in nursing.  The goal being to acquire adequate medical skills and resources to benefit people of the South Pacific Islands.

These people had been on her heart since age 15, so nursing was a tangible way she could foreseeably meet some of their needs.

A key to living a fulfilled life:

One of the keys to pursuing a fulfilled life is to look outside of ourselves to determine how we can meet the needs of others.

When asked why Nic cared about this people group she replied,

“Everyone has a right to live without pain.
I want to help people over there because they don’t have enough doctors, nurses or facilities.”

As the picture of her longer-term ‘calling’ became clearer, Nic’s shorter-term stages of ‘purpose’ increased in activity and focus.  These included graduating as an Enrolled Nurse (in June 2018) and extending her studies to include counselling and psychology.

Foreseeably this path will continue for the next few years as she gains greater experience in her fields of interest.  It also allows time for Nic’s kids to reach an age of independence.

Well done Nic and congratulations for the steps you’ve taken so far!

How well do you know your purpose?

Knowing your purpose not only helps when making important life-based decisions, it can also provide you with a greater sense of underlying hope, self-worth and confidence.  

The alternative is to vaguely flounder in a direction dictated by the ‘currents of life’.  Understandably, this is an unwise place to remain.

Talk with someone you trust to start finding purpose

If you or someone you know is feeling stuck in life, direction and purpose, then the best first step is to ‘get out of your head’ and talk to a trusted friend or coach.

Finding the right person is so important.  Often well-meaning friends add their own story, opinions or perspectives.  Unfortunately, this has the effect of distorting and side-tracking what you have to share.

When unravelling your thoughts and dreams with others, choose someone who:
– Can remain unbiased
– Keeps what you share confidential
– Is skilled at helping process your thoughts without killing your dreams

You have what it takes to make a difference

If your life purpose is unknown or inactive, I urge you to discover yours.   You have unique interests, skills and abilities that can make a difference in your life and the lives of others!

What’s stopping you from taking that step today?

Try coaching

Coaching provides a safe place to explore opportunities, work through concerns or fears, and develop personally or professionally.

If you’re keen to maximise your potential and create lasting change, speak to a coach who specialises in helping you dig deep deeper to unlock, release and activate your dreams.

Unlock your future potential!